ring
pillows
flower
girls
money
bags
flower
packages
favors
toasting glasses
guestbooks
& pens
wedding candles
garters
cake knives & servers
cake
tops & ribbon pulls
cake boxes
handkerchiefs
vanessa ryan
demi-hose
aisle
runners
attendant gifts
wedding gifts
relaxation
fly without fear
accessory collections
Austrian
Tradition
In
the past when the marriage proposal was a more formal procedure,
the prospective groom sent his friend or members of the family
to represent his interests to the prospective bride and her
family. If the saw a blind man, a monk or a pregnant woman it
was thought that the marriage would be doomed if they continued
their journey as these sights were thought to be bad omens.
If, however, they saw goats, pigeons or wolves these were good
omens which would bring good fortune to the marriage.
It
was thought unlucky for a woman to marry a man whose surname
began with the same letter as hers. The sentiment was summarised
in the following rhyme:
“To change the name and not the letter, is to change the worst
and not the better.”
The bride should not practise writing her new name before the
wedding. This is thought to bring bad luck by tempting fate.
Although
most weddings take place on a Saturday it was considered unlucky
in the past. Fridays were also considered unlucky particularly
Friday the 13th. The famous old rhyme advises a wedding in the
first half of the week:
“Monday for wealth, Tuesday for health, Wednesday the best day
of all, Thursday for losses, Friday for crosses, Saturday for no
luck at all.”
It
is thought unlucky for the bride to make her own wedding dress.
It is also unlucky for the groom to see the bride in her wedding
dress before until she arrives the ceremony.
The bride should not wear her entire outfit before the wedding
day. Some brides leave a final stitch on the dress undone until
it is time to leave for the ceremony when the outfit is
completed.
Traditionally,
brides have been thought to be particularly vulnerable to evil
spirits and many of the customs and traditions associated with
weddings are to provide protection.
A
combination of red and white flowers is avoided by the
superstitious because they stand for blood and bandages.
The groom often chooses a flower for his buttonhole which also
occurs in the bride’s bouquet. This is a vestige of the time
when a knight would wear his lady’s colour to display his
love.
When
the bride is ready to leave the house for the wedding ceremony a
last look in the mirror will bring her good luck. However
returning to the mirror once she has began her journey will
result in bad luck.
Seeing a chimney sweep on the way to a wedding is thought to
bring good luck and it is still possible to hire one to attend
wedding ceremonies. Other good luck omens when seen on the way
to the ceremony include spiders, black cats and rainbows.
Bad weather on the way to the wedding is thought to be an omen
of an unhappy marriage, although in some cultures rain is
considered a good omen. Cloudy skies and wind are believed to
cause stormy marriages, snow on the other hand is associated
with fertility and wealth.
Bridesmaids
were dressed in a similar way to the bride. The bridesmaids were
thought to act as decoys to confuse evil spirits and thus
protect the bride.
It
is said that the first partner who buys a new item after the
wedding will be the dominant one in the relationship. Many
brides ensure that they make the first purchase by arranging to
buy a small item such as a pin from a bridesmaid immediately
after the ceremony.
Sudanese
Tradition
A
bridegroom ceremony is a common wedding practice in the Sudan.
The bridegroom is welcomed to the wedding site with an
auspicious decoration called the umbul-umbul, a type of 'wedding
announcement'. The mother of the bride gives the bridegroom a
garland of flowers, welcoming him into her family. She also
gives him a 'keris', a hidden message encouraging him not to be
disheartened while toiling for his family.
The
bridegroom welcome is followed by a procession of ladies with
candles, who pray for the ceremony. The bride and groom sit next
to each other under an umbrella in front of the entrance to
their future home with a veil covering both of their heads. The
umbrella is held over the couple's head, serving not only a very
practical purpose by also symbolizing esteem and respect.
The
bride and groom bend forward and kiss the knees of their
parents, a ceremony called sungkem, asking for forgiveness and
blessing and promising to continue to serve their parents. This
wedding ritual is held in front of a gargoyle fountain. Water
flowing from the gargoyle suggests the continuous flow of
priceless parental love for their children. A chosen man and
woman, sing a special song called kidung on behalf of the
parents, advising the couple to treat each other well and to
live in harmony. Kidung also invokes blessing upon the couple.
An
egg breaking ceremony, called nincak endog, requires the couple
to stand facing each other in front of their house. The
bridegroom stands outside the entrance and the bride stands
inside. The ceremony is conducted by the Sudanese equivalent of
an American 'maid of honor', who remains an advisor throughout
the marriage. In this ceremony, seven broomsticks are burnt and
thrown away, dramatizing the discarding of bad habits which
endanger married life.
The
groom is pronounced master of his house when the egg is broken.
His bride cleans the his foot with water from a kendi, an
earthen water jug which represents peace. Then she breaks the
kendi and crosses over a log into the house, demonstrating
willing obedience to her future husband. She is fed a dish of
turmeric sticky rice with yellow spiced chicken to symbolize the
last time the parents of the bride will feed their daughter.
The
groom remains outside for another ceremony, which is enacted
before him by a couple who sing. During this ceremony, the
groom, via the vocalists, requests to enter his bride's house,
and she consents when he agrees to confirm his Moslem faith.
Having done so, the couple is given a barbecued spiced chicken
to pull apart on a signal from the 'maid of honor'. According to
tradition, the one who gets the larger piece will bring in the
larger share of the family fortune. The ceremony also portrays
the importance of working together to acquire fortune.
Following
the wedding ceremony, dancers shower the bride and groom with
wedding flowers to insure a fragrant future for the couple. A
sawer, made of turmeric rice, coins, and candy, is thrown at the
couple. Rice is a symbol of prosperity, and yellow is for
everlasting love. The coins remind the couple to share their
wealth with the less fortunate, and the candy bestows sweetness
and fragrance upon their marriage. Seven candles are lit
representing the direction the couple should follow to bring
about a happy married life. A betel nut set near the couple is a
reminder that different customs should not spoil a harmonious
marriage.
source:
World
Wedding Traditions
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